These past six years of widowhood has given me much insight about myself and the vulnerabilities that come along with starting over again without the support, love, input and the comfort my absent loved one provided in my life.
The vulnerability of wanting to feel love and learning to love again brings a level of inadequacy for me that hasn’t been felt in years.
The vulnerability in making decisions without the support, validation of the other without feedback is challenging and the ability to start over again within this post-pandemic society can be nerve wracking.
Fortunately for me I have a loving family, numerous grandchildren, other friends that are in this phase of life with me and you know what, they are not all widows.
My point! Although starting over after the loss of your husband or wife, doesn’t me giving in, it means stepping up and out to new opportunities, no matter how challenging. It means stepping into new arenas with support, prayer and guidance from others. It means building new relationships with others even if they are tiny steps! It means finding joy in learning you, loving you and empowering yourself to be the best you, that you can be and not giving up in the process.
Yes, there are days and moments that you will feel like throwing your towel in or throwing your hands up! But, when those moments occur, try looking up to the hills from whence cometh your help, because your help can and will come from the Lord.
A certain widow